Hi, it’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Michael in Sacramento, California. I feel that I’m always negative no matter what. How can I change this?
Is something bothering you subconsciously? Were you physically or mentally abused during your childhood? Are you often around others who are negative? Negative thinking can take a huge toll on your life and even affect others around you.
First of all, stop thinking of situations in such black and white. To every negative situation, there is something positive and vice versa. While everyone around you is upset, try to be that one person who is peppy and cheers everyone else up. Try to find that one good in the bad and do something about it. You may even find yourself convincing yourself you are actually not very negative at all. A common negative thought is “I didn’t visit them enough” when a loved one passes away. Here’s the positive in that. They’re out of pain now.
Overcoming negative thoughts is definitely a tough process, but it’s certainly doable. There isn’t a “happy switch,” although we can always dream. A common anxiety-reducing tactic that may help is writing down how you’re feeling. That way, you’re better able to understand why you’re feeling so negative.
People who think such negative thoughts so often may find themselves completely indulged in their own minds and forgetting that there are positives to life and that they are completely capable of taking advantage of that.
Don’t forget that only you are in control of your thoughts, no one else. However, if you feel that your negative thoughts are driving you to contemplate any harmful actions, please contact your doctor immediately.