Hi. It’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Jennifer in Centennial, Colorado. Is it normal for me that whenever I have negative feelings, I cry like crazy, and then I get panic attacks and go through the whole round of anxiety?
This usually happens to people who have pent up negative emotions inside them. They will normally harbor feelings of resentment, remorse, and anger against their surroundings or people for a long time.
After that, it only takes a very little triggering factor to hit at the pent up emotions, which then comes out in the form of a full-fledged exaggerated and even irrelevant panic attack. You could be simply refusing to face negative situations in your life.
Often in our attempt to be amiable and a pleasant person, we end up putting on an artificial appearance. When this happens, we don’t even react to situations or people that we don’t like or have an issue with. It is this pent up negativity that bothers you. It will normally take a very insignificant triggering factor to bring out all the pent up frustration, which eventually leads to the panic attack.
You really have to understand that negative feelings, people, and situations are an integral part of our lives. It takes all sorts of individuals and instances to make the world a place. It is very important for you to remember that there is nothing wrong or abnormal in having negative feelings.
You seem to have harbored a fear of negative emotions over the years, considering them to be undesirable. Instead, it will help you to learn to face these emotions. You need to know that it is normal to feel negative at times and just let the moment pass. You can also develop your mechanism to deal with these onslaughts of negativity in the form of soothing music, enjoying outdoors, or any other hobby.