Hi. It’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Nicole in Salt Lake City. I feel as if my kids are drifting from me and no longer want to spend time with me since they’re grown up. Because of this, I’ve been feeling very depressed and anxious.
If your kids are all grown up, you should feel accomplished. You kept them safe and healthy all these years and although they may be starting their own lives away from you, that doesn’t change the fact that you’re their parent and that unconditional love will never change. What you are feeling, however, that feeling of loss is a very real feeling. You may feel that your children have forgotten who you were to them when they were younger.
The problem with many young mothers is they’re so caught up with raising their children that they don’t really give thought to what will happen after they have grown up. Of course, though, no mother should waste their energy constantly worrying about this when they can be exerting positive energy in loving their children. However, it’s something that should be planned ahead of time so that you don’t feel lost without your kids.
Women in their 50s and 60s actually say that they’re much less anxious in these years than any other time in their lives because they’re free. They’ve done their motherly duties and can now enjoy their own time and their own lives, maybe travel the world, meet new people, and maybe even meet a new spouse.
It’s strange to go from being a mother 24/7 to such an independent life. Most women forget that even grown children can still be taught and cared for. Even if you have a son who works in a high-end financial business in a large city and competes in body building competitions, your little boy is still in there somewhere. There is always room for anyone to improve and become a little wiser than they were yesterday. And don’t forget, there are still grandchildren to take care of.