Hi. It’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Otis in Westin, Colorado. What should I do if I’m dating someone with anxiety issues or can you say a mental disorder? Should I just dump her? But I sort of like her.
You and only you can decide who you want to be in a relationship with. We all have emotional baggage. Some of us have a shoulder satchel and some people have a convoy of tractor-trailers. You have to decide where your limits are, who you want to be with, and what you’re willing to tolerate and excuse.
A friend of mine had a girlfriend who was scared of the dark. He bought her a flashlight to carry with her and her phobia did make for some great cuddling. Everyone has little or not so little quirks. That’s what makes us all unique.
You have to define what your deal breakers are. Fear of the dark, not an issue. Infidelity, a deal breaker. That’s one of my limits. For others, infidelity can be forgiven or it’s actually encouraged in an open relationship or swinging. Everyone has their preferences and limits, so where are yours and what are your quirks, idiosyncrasies or baggage?
Again, we all have them. What will she have to decide on in terms of the deal breaker? In a relationship, there is reciprocity.