Hi. It’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Jeff in Portland, Oregon. I am always anxious about my relationship with my wife. I always feel like she might leave me. If I go to a bar or club, I always feel that she may find someone else. I am good looking and tall. I have done a lot of modeling; however, I am always in anxiety because of that even though she loves me and we are married for two years now.
The best thing to do would be to confront your wife about how you’re feeling. Communication is absolutely crucial in relationships. It seems that you are confident in your looks, but you are insecure otherwise. You must be confident that your wife will stay with you for more than just appearance.
After two years of being in a committed marriage, it would seem improbable that your spouse will cease to be loyal for no apparent reason. Discussing this with your spouse will help, but only when you are in control of your thoughts and insecurities. You wife may provide comfort, but it is up to you as far as what to do with it.
This fear may also stem from past experiences. Have you been betrayed by a previous partner? If so, it is not unusual to feel somewhat insecure in your current relationship. However, it is important to understand that what happened in the past should not affect the present and future. Feeling this way simply wastes time and energy that can be used more wisely and positively.
After you’ve spoken to your spouse, gradually try to stop seeking reassurance. This way you are able to build confidence on your own. Provide your own reassurance. Remind yourself that your wife married you and only you. She loves you and only you. She is committed to you and only you. Remember confidence is always key.