Hi. It’s Jenny at AnxietyBoss.com. Our question today is from Angela in Huntington, New York. I am very anxious about my wedding coming up. What are some calming techniques that I can try?
Well, first of all, congratulations. Getting married is a huge deal, but so is planning it and making sure that everything goes perfectly. Unfortunately, pre-wedding nerves are part of the experience.
Some women starve themselves or they eat very little during the months before the wedding. Now, this can actually cause heightened anxiety and what do you do if you become too thin for your dress or suit? Don’t change your daily routine or eating habits, but it’s especially beneficial to choose healthy foods like whole grains, fruits and vegetables.
This goes for sleep as well. Staying up all night to make sure all of your future in-laws are satisfied will definitely take a toll on you, so get your rest. Try to regulate your sleep schedules so that you’re going to bed and waking up at the same time each day.
It’s also helpful to find time, even just 10 minutes each day, to leave your daily duties and meditate. Sit in a peaceful place, not a room where you sleep or do exercise, and take some time to reflect on your thoughts. Taking a walk once or twice a day is also helpful, so that you’re able to take some time to yourself to relax. At the same time, your body is getting a workout. Remember, exercise actually helps to reduce stress. The more the better.
Okay, but enough with the eat healthy, get rest, and exercise spiel. Now for the nitty gritty. If you’re planning most of the wedding, don’t. You’ll find yourself stressed out much more than you should be. This is an event for both you and your partner, so there needs to be compromise. If you feel that you may be stuck in a situation where you’re more in charge of the event than your spouse, talk to them and explain that you would like both of you to do an equal amount of work. If they insist that they are doing work even though they may be sitting on the couch playing video games, it may be helpful to then write out a chart of what each of you could do, so that the work is evenly split.
Most importantly, although it may be hard to remember amongst all the stress, keep in mind that this day is about the love that the two of you share. Even if the worst-case scenario occurs, don’t forget what your wedding day is really about.