Resilience is the opposite of stressed out (also known as burnout). Resilience is about how to deal with stress and prevent burnout. Resilience is about how to properly adapt to stress and adversity.
When the same stressors are applied to a group of people, some will have poor coping and become stressed out, while the others will just seemingly shrug it off, and may even perform better due to the stress! The ones who have resilience just seem to benefit from the stressor or adversity, as they learn, develop, and optimize their reaction to it. Someone who is resilient may even look forward to the stressor, while those who are stressed out avoid them at all cost.
There are multiple ways to have resilience in the face of stressors and adversity:
- Positive attitude. Thinking negatively makes you feel sad and bad. Having a positive attitude will put you in a better mood to deal with things better, no matter how distressful.
- Hope for the future. Being optimistic and having hope that things will improve despite a temporary setback will help you climb out of the hole you are in.
- Failure is seen as constructive feedback. Resilient people see failure as a way to learn from the mistakes they made that contributed to the failure. So in times of crisis, resilient people take this as an opportunity to learn and develop- it is an opportunity to change for the better.
- Deal with challenges as they happen. Don’t delay in dealing with complex problems or challenges. Procrastination leads to delays that can make the situation worse.
- Lower your expectations. If you have high expectations of yourself and others, you will be disappointed most of the time, as you and other people can’t be perfect or have a positive outcome all the time. Aim for average, and if the outcome is above average, then you will be that much more satisfied. If the outcome is below average, then you don’t have far to reach the average or “good enough” expected outcome.
- Be flexible. People who are resilient are flexible in their thinking, and flexible in their interactions with people. Let things slide…don’t sweat the small stuff. Save your energy for more difficult challenges.
- Focus on things you can control. Resilient people don’t worry about the things they can’t control.
- Regulate emotions. Resilient people are steady with their emotions, even when things around them become chaotic and out of control.
So these are some tips to increase resilience when you are facing stressors or adversity. Resilience is especially increased when you can reduce anxiety. For more information and help on instilling resilience and eradicating anxiety, please visit the rest of AnxietyBoss.com.